Heartaches and breakups in relationships can be difficult and painful. When you are deeply in love it's like a drug that takes you on a high. And when you crash to earth when its ended, the breakup feels like you're going through withdrawals from the drug of love. If Mr. or Ms Right walks away, don't let them take your self-esteem, peace of mind, dignity and hope out the door too. GO BACK and get them. Don't give some one that much power. When you start to "emotionally bleed" and feel so much pain, the cure is not isolation or rushing into another relationship before you heal. Don't sing that popular song from the stage play DREAMGIRLS..."you're gonna love me". You can't make some one love you. Don't pull, manipulate and wish some one back into your life that isn't worthy or unable to return the feelings and commitment. If this is where you are now, you're not going to die. Breathe again. Don't isolate yourself and put yourself on "lock down." This is a not a good thing. You don't want to rush into another relationship real quick either. Don't isolate yourself and stop going to work, stop your studies, neglect yourself, neglect your home or children, neglect your business. Be careful, because desperation, depression and discouragement will walk right in and sit down with you and convince you to throw a pity-party in their honor. If you remain angry or in grief about the one that didn't stay, how can you make room for the right person in your heart? Learn to appreciate yourself and have a life whether you are in a relationship right now or not. By: Jewel Diamond Taylor Motivational Speaker and Author of the book 'The Self-Esteem Dr' --------------------------------------------------------------- Your Presence Is A Present To The World... Now that I have gotten your attention with the above statement I want you to take a second to really soak in the above statement. How does it make you feel to hear it? I am certain that if I asked everyone reading this that I would likely get a number of different answers. Ironically it's the fact that I would get so many different answers that illustrates how the above statement holds true! You see, each of us is our own person. We each have had life shape us in different ways. We've experienced different things that all go into making us who we are as human beings. However, no matter what has happened to us in our lives we need to (no matter how many times you have to remind yourself) keep telling ourselves that we do in fact make the world a better place because of our being! You may not believe me, but I assure you this is fact! If you don't believe me think for a second about how things would be different without you taking part in them. Would the big sale have been made if you hadn't been there to do it? Who would have taken your kids to the ball park or pick them up from school. What about your loved ones? You see my friend; we all play a big part in the lives of others. I hope that you'll take a second to ponder all the wonderful differences you make in others lives, just by being you! By: Josh Hinds Personal Development Writer Visit Josh Hinds Website --------------------------------------------------------------- A Little Today, A Bigger Tomorrow Make a little bit of a positive difference today, and a little bit tomorrow too. You won't change the world overnight, yet if you persist, with just a little every day, it will soon add up to something big. Take measured steps toward your dreams, toward your goals. Be consistent and be persistent. There is a very real starting point right now, today, for anything you wish to achieve. Nothing is out of reach when you make the commitment to move steadily toward it. Don't wait until your dream is within reach -- do what is necessary to put it within reach. Most of the things you desire will not come to you. You must make the effort to go to them, steadily and persistently. You can spend thirty years wishing for easy, overnight success that never comes, or you can actually go out and work day by day toward that success. By the end of this very day, you can be significantly closer to achieving anything you desire. What it takes is effort. You won't make the entire leap today. Yet string enough days together, one after the other, and you're there. By: Ralph Marston